Sometimes life can feel relentless - rain, wind, difficult colleagues, passive people who make no effort. Then the sun comes out, you notice the buds on the shrubs and trees, in the garden or park, that promise spring will bring colour and warmth after the winter - and something within you feels like that bud that is waiting for its situation to change so it can burst forth. Oh yes you can! Whatever it is, if it’s a yearning that feels forever a pregnancy and never a birth - yes you can. And you may need a midwife to help, encourage and tend to you through the process!
I love working with people, hearing their stories and the things that have got in the way of them fulfilling dreams and ambitions. Then, when they have felt it all hopeless, a new way of looking at a situation brings a shaft of light. Take Darren (not his real name), his heart was in his boots. Constant changes in the team, changes in offices that and management had left him feeling disrespected, side-lined and plain lonely at work. He thought of how it had been a few years before when the team worked together creatively and felt sad for the loss. We explored what he really wanted, deep down. He told me his dream would be to take early retirement but that was impossible.
So we looked at the ways that he might make changes at work that would make things better. He wanted to do that. Then he became ready to think of the ‘impossible’ and he started to take some small steps into conversations with the relevant people, it became less impossible. Gradually he felt empowered to ask for what he wanted, having planned who to talk to, what he would say and how he would approach it all. I’m happy to say that he got the happy ending to his career that he wanted and now travels the country with his wife and the caravan and gets better and better as a painter and blesses various charities with his volunteering. A happy fulfilled life that he had thought impossible to achieve so early.
There are many such stories that I have from my courageous clients; and the sunshine in my life comes out when I see that look on their face when they realise that the change they want IS possible.
What situation is making you sad today?
What change, even if small, would bring the sun out from behind the clouds?
Would you like some ‘midwife’ support from me to bring that change about?